Beyond Divorce (Recovery and) Empowerment
- Rid yourself of residual energy of betrayal, neglect, and regret
- Learn to manage those crazy thoughts and quiet your inner critic
- Know how to access peace in all circumstances
- Come home to yourself
- Dating, relating, and sex after divorce
- Letting go and moving on
Part two of 2 phase program: Empowerment
There will be a time when your emotions calm down and the chaos quiets. You will begin to think clearly again and your energy will return. Beyond Divorce Recovery is inward focused. It’s all about you getting better.
Beyond Divorce Empowerment is more outward focused. It’s you going out into your world in a new way, gathering unto you all the parts of you that have been spread all over the place, bringing them home to make a life based on more authentic values.
I have so much to learn. I am seeking out positive relationships with people I trust. These loved ones know I am on an incredibly new journey and will give the guidance I seek. I know that I want to be a safe person. I want to be true to the commitments I make. First I need to understand how a commitment is made, then honored. Most of my life I have just let it flow but this is not working for me [now]. It [limits] what I can offer to others. I have not been single since I was 17 years old. I really like that the pressure is off of always being pursued. Now my signal is not to be pursued. This will give me time and opportunity to learn. I am open and teachable. ~ Cat A.
How to participate:
- If you are local to Boulder/Denver you can participate in a group. Groups take place 2 or 3 times a year.
- If you’re not local to Boulder/Denver you can participate one-on-one with me via phone or Skype. We will customize your program to meet you right where you are and move you forward at the pace you need.
Below you will find a brief summary of the session topics. If you are a Beyond Divorce Recovery grad, click “ENROLL HERE” at any time down the page to take you immediately to registration. $49 holds your spot. If you haven’t been through the Recovery program, let’s talk to be sure this is the right program for you at this time. You can’t skip the recovery part. It never works.
Six sessions launches you into a more joy-filled, connected life!
Each session has its own topic of discussion. There is plenty of time for learning, sharing, being supported in your unique situation.
“The first class really was about recovery. This one is about discovery. There were certainly discovery aspects in the other but you’re just so hammered…” ~Diane Lomonaco
Session One – Release Trapped Negative Energy
You calmed the emotions in Phase One: Recovery but there are still old energies lingering in your body. These energies will run you just like a rudder on a ship until you release them. In this session you will release neglect, betrayal, and regret from your system. We will also discuss trust—trusting yourself, trusting others, trusting Life.
Session Two – Think Better Thoughts
The Inner Critic is vicious. It will talk you out of your greatness in no time if you don’t catch it in the act. In this session you will learn how to put it in its place, learn the root of your limiting beliefs, and find peace in every circumstance. We will also talk about forgiving yourself and forgiving others on a whole new level. Discover real freedom.
Session Three—Become Who You Are
Life is different on the other side of divorce. YOU are different on the other side of your divorce. You are entering an exciting time in the transition process—sorting through various aspects of your life deciding want comes forward and what stays behind including people, behaviors, thoughts, identities. One of the things we discuss in this session is the masks you’ve worn as protection. We think our masks protect us, and that can be true, but masks can also be a barrier to love. In this session you identify masks that hold you back and consider what is possible if you let even one of them go.
“In the Recovery class I just wanted to know how I got there. Now I want to know if I’m on course.” ~Rob McKinnon
Session Four – Dating Without Heartbreak
For some the thought of dating after divorce is terrifying. “How do I know I won’t pick the same kind of person and end up heartbroken again?” Others can’t wait to get back to dating. “I’m a wife. I don’t know how to be anything else.” It is a deep human desire to connect but how do we connect in a conscious, adult way? What are the expectations around dating in today’s world? How do you decide what you want in a partner? How do you avoid being heartbroken again? What is the difference between a transitional relationship and a rebound? How important is it to identify your needs, wants and desires in a partner? What is the difference between dating for fun and dating for keeps? We discuss all these things and more. Bring your questions.
Session Five – Sexuality and Relationship Success
This is a continuation of the Dating and Relating topic but it goes deeper (no pun intended). If you were in a long marriage it may seem like you’ve been dumped onto another planet with entirely different rules around sexuality. You will want to be clear about your sexual values so you don’t betray your own heart. What part of you is choosing and why? In this session you will understand the 3 layers of relating and misunderstandings that arise when they’re different for each of you. Learn some of the most important relationship research for successful relating.
Session Six —Your New Future
You’ve moved even further down the recovery path. You’re getting to know, and starting to trust in, this new, stronger, wiser you that showed up on the scene after your divorce. It’s time to celebrate. In this session we will revisit the transition stages in a way that invites you to let go, once and for all, of things that have been holding you back, past, present and future.
“The Recovery class dug up those horrible feelings. In this class I learned that this experience is truly behind me. I no longer want to think about it. This class pulled me down my path a little more.” ~Charlotte Herrmann
After attending Beyond Divorce Recovery participants report that they:
- Experience more emotional freedom
- Have a new curiosity toward life
- Honor themselves and their needs in a new way
- Are okay with their mistakes and imperfections
- Accept people and situations as they are
- Havd a sense of gratitude and peace
- Feel more confident in the dating world when they participate and feel ok if they don’t.
If you like, you can read what various professionals in the divorce field have said about the program and their clients’ experiences here.