Why Journal?

Your Journal is Your Friend

Power of Journal WRiting 11-23-15











I encourage people all the time to call friends to talk with them. It’s so important to have a place to spill your guts when you’re trying to figure something out or you need some relief from the emotions and chaos. My father died last week and I found myself waking in the night thinking about him. I needed to process and the world was asleep. My journal served me well. Writing from 4am to 6am got all that stuff […]

By |November 23rd, 2015|Categories: Communication, Emotions, Finding Peace, Manage Your Thoughts|Comments Off on Why Journal?

Stonewalling – 5 Tips for Breaking Through

Relationship Destroying Behaviors: Stonewalling


There are four behaviors so deadly to a relationship, whether romantic, family and friends, or business, that they have been called ‘The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse’ by relationship expert, John Gottman, Ph.D.. He names them:

  • Criticism
  • Contempt
  • Defensiveness
  • Stonewalling

This is the fourth in a series of articles devoted to understanding the impact of each of these behaviors. You will find the first three articles on Criticism, Contempt, and

4 Tips for Managing Contempt

Relationship Destroying Behaviors: Contempt


There are four behaviors so deadly to a relationship, be it a romantic, familial, or business, that they have been called ‘The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse’ by relationship expert, John Gottman, Ph.D.

This article is the second in a series of four articles devoted to understanding the impact of each of these behaviors along with tips for reducing the impact of the behaviors, which are:

  1. Criticism
  2. Contempt
  3. Defensiveness
  4. Stonewalling

This time we look at Contempt:

Humans are powerful. The union of […]

The Collaborative Way to Divorce

The Collaborative Team

Coaching Collaborative Divorce

Like most things, when it comes to divorce, there are better and worse ways to go about it. I like to tell people that the best way to have a good life after divorce is to divorce well. Most people need help doing this.

If you’d been able to communicate well during your marriage you likely wouldn’t be divorcing now. Making difficult life-changing decisions while feeling broken and confused is a recipe for disaster. So what do you do? I believe it takes a team […]

By |January 7th, 2015|Categories: Collaborative Divorce, Communication, Divorce Help, During Divorce, Parenting|0 Comments

Healing A Painful Relationship

Help for Healing a Painful Relationship

How To Heal A Painful Relationship
A relationship that isn’t working is one of the most painful of life’s experiences. Not just painful, sometimes it’s downright exasperating taking a lot more of our thought life than we like to admit. I’ve seen many couples stay in a painful relationship because they don’t have any idea how to get out of it.

Nowadays there are many resources. One of my professional success stories is working with couples who are struggling. They may not want to […]

By |March 12th, 2014|Categories: Better Relationships, Book Review, Communication, Divorce Help|0 Comments

I’m Sorry

I hope you like our newly designed announcements panel. We have some fun, informative, and healing things coming up that you might want to be part of so click on through and find out what those are about. My book project is coming along. It's in final editing and I'm actively working with a cover designer. That's the fun part! If you want to participate in a survey to help me choose a subtitle, here's the link. I think you'll have to copy and paste into your browser. Thanks for the help. Here's the newsletter.... I woke up this morning thinking about some particularly difficult encounters I've had over the last few years. Encounters that have both ended and distanced friendships. Encounters that could have been healed with the words, "I'm sorry." Hearing the words, "I'm sorry" has a whole lot to do with my ability to trust again... and it takes a certain amount of trust to risk my heart again. Distance is protective. This post is about my thoughts on the usefulness of the words, "I'm sorry." I always love hearing your comments, so please leave me your thoughts if you're so inspired. Jeannine

Untying the Knot in the Digital Age

This post is by guest author, Dave Taylor of Dave is a father of three and regularly blogs about his life through, and beyond, divorce as a father. Dave is also a technology guru. He has written over twenty technology-related books and regularly writes a tech column for The Daily Camera in Boulder, Colorado. Thanks to Dave for contributing the following article on the importance of disconnecting technologically with a former spouse. If you feel badly about pulling that plug, or are unsure if that you have disconnected in all the right places, here is some inspiration.

Imagine There are No Labels

I have been (purposely) media deprived for years now. It’s just too depressing. Lately, despite my best efforts to keep it at bay the world has been closing in around me through the chatter of people I care about – colleagues, friends, and family. Even though I, mostly, understand that everything is at it should be and all will be well, it can still be overwhelming. I'm paying close attention to what I'm thinking about. I am re-examining the words I use - the labels I place on my world, including myself. The words I choose impact the condition of my heart, soul, mind and ultimate happiness. I am making renewed effort to own the limitations that I put on myself and to claim higher and better thoughts.