I just witnessed the failure of a collaborative divorce case for the first time. It is disheartening. They will now be going to court with their own lawyer.
The Upside of Emotional Crashes I’ve lived a helluva life. In a little over a decade I’ve moved at least a dozen times, been in two car-totaling crashes, and been through two divorces. Those are the things I can
The Holidays and Struggling Relationships I recently heard that two weeks before Christmas is when most relationships break up. At the same time I learned that the 2-week-before Christmas mark also has the highest suicide rate and is the
Coaching Your Structured Separation I was at a book signing for my Beyond Divorce book recently and a woman came up to me afterward to make a confession. “I’ve been divorced for 12 years and now I wish I’d
Relationship Skills I Wish I’d Had We typically learn a lot about ourselves, and others, when we divorce. Things that went right, things that went wrong. Things we would do differently next time. From time to time, clients will
I’m looking at life in new ways. How refreshing. After spending a few decades thinking ‘I know’ and being drug through reality’s mud while holding on to the tail of that beast, I have landed squarely in the question,
Are you ready to enter back into a relationship with your ex? Looking for relationship advice? Does he deserve another shot? “I’m thinking of getting back together with my Ex. What do you think?” I’m surprised at how often
I’ve just returned from my 2009 sabbatical desert journey – a time of reflection, peace, centeredness. A time to find Me. (How is it that I keep getting lost?) I learn so much just by observing the world that is
We humans have a whole team of parts, voices, possible ways of being available to us. Awareness of those possibilities is key to choosing appropriate behavior for a given situation. Who gets to be in charge?...
There are a variety of the causes of ended love relationships. It is always more complicated than a good relationship gone bad. Many relationships begin on an unstable foundation caused by the childhood dynamics each person brings into the union. Anything on top of an already weak foundation becomes...