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Have You Lost Love?

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Have You Lost Love?

That’s kind of a silly question isn’t it? If we are older than about one day, we have lost love of some kind. Or at least it feels that way.

If you feel like you’ve lost love, and want it back, this article is for you.

Although I would have pushed back on anyone who tried to tell me this in the past, I have come to know that we cannot lose love. Why?

Love lives in us, not outside us.

Life events, upbringing, along with evidence we’ve gathered to the […]

Divorce and the Empty Nest

Divorce is hard, yes?

Ask anyone who has been through it. It’s harder for some than others. I have observed divorce being most difficult for people in two specific life circumstances. One is the empty nest.

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The Empty Nest

The feelings of abandonment and utter uselessness are exasperated when divorce and empty nest happen at the same time. It can be especially difficult if you were a stay-at-home parent who dedicated your life to rearing the children—one day your life was filled with purpose, and then it wasn’t. I’ve heard this referred […]

By | September 9th, 2014|Categories: After Divorce, Alone Again, Fear, Kids and Divorce, Loss, Parenting, Purpose, Second Time Around|3 Comments

A Good Relationship

What makes a good relationship?

Since I work with divorcing people, I am often asked: “What makes a good relationship?” I wonder myself. Don’t you? Any question I am asked I put out to Spirit for an answer. The answers start coming in odd ways, by that I mean, ways I do not expect. The first answers that show up are what ‘it’ (whatever ‘it’ is) is not. Even though I’d rather just have The Answer, knowing what ‘it’ isn’t does get me closer to knowing what it is.

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Here are […]

Sex After Divorce

Sex After Divorce

Sex After Divorce

The final view: Because the sexual act is as easy as eating or breathing we overlook the spiritual aspect of sexual union. If sex unites two completely separate universes, and DNA is transferred, and psychic energy is exchanged, doesn’t it deserve a little respect?  Sexual intercourse is THE act that creates human life — and yet we wield this power so lightly — so unconsciously.  I believe that unconscious sexual practices impacts all of humankind at levels that we are only beginning to comprehend.

There is mounting […]

10 Things We Still Don’t Know After Divorce

Susan attended my divorce recovery class 5 years ago. She contacted me again recently because her Ex was getting re-married. A flood of new, and unexpected, emotions had surfaced. “Many of the issues I though that I'd resolved now have to be resolved at a new and different level (e.g., a new woman, I didn't choose, moving into the house I helped to design and using my stuff as her own, having to share my children with a new woman, watching as my Ex uses his money on his soon-to-be new wife, watching as he treats his new wife better than he treated me, etc.). Where are the resources to help me understand and to deal in a healthy way with these issues?” Susan has given me permission to share her “10 Important Things I’ve Learned.” You will find them under the “read more…” link.

Memories are for Sharing

Memories are for Sharing

Memories are for Sharing

I’m several years out of my divorce and many more years out of my marital home and it’s just starting to hit me. I’m sure I preemptively grieved the lost memories. I cried enough to have grieved everything that could possibly come up… but here it is again. This time for the lost memories.

Not long ago I heard a song on the radio that I used to sing to my kids, even as teens, to get them up in the morning. It was the Beatles ‘Good […]

Sex Before Remarriage (Intro) – A Discussion

What are your thoughts on sex before remarriage?

By Jeannine Lee

Sex before remarriage

Before I answer that question I think there needs to be a discussion about marriage itself. Marriage once had a more unified definition than it does today. I’ve heard young women say, “He will do for a first husband.” A short-term non-committed view of marriage isn’t what I will be addressing.

I work with a lot of singles, most of them divorced. They are ultimately looking for a long-term relationship, a life partner. They want the fairy tale. And above all, […]