The 3 Phases of an Upheaval

Everything in life has some version of beginning, middle, and end. Upheavals do too. Understanding the 3 phases of an upheaval is helpful so you can know how near you are to relief from the chaotic parts. First, what exactly is an upheaval? We experience many upheavals in life: the ending of a relationship, losing a job and the resulting impact to our financial security, health challenges, children leaving home, natural disasters like fire or flood. We experience upheavals with gains, too. Getting into a relationship, starting a new job, a financial windfall, a new self-image by losing weight or plastic surgery, or having a child. These are gains instead of losses but they are still an interruption to life as we’ve known it.

The 3 Phases of an Upheaval

  1. An ending (and even with the gain of say, a new relationship, there is the ending of life as a single)
  2. An in-between, which is particularly chaotic as the parts of our lives break apart in preparation for rearranging
  3. The formation of a new identity, which may take a little getting used to

Having just come through the upheaval of a move, that one is on my mind. Moving is the perfect external example/metaphor of what happens in our internal world. Life as we’ve known it is literally broken into pieces so it can be moved to a new location and then put back together again. The soul rearranging we experience in an upheaval is similar. Only with the soul, it is our identity that is being dismantled so it can be rearranged and put together in a new way. If we work it right the new way is always better, more expansive, more authentic—both personally and relationally.

If you’re going through a divorce or relationship difficulties, have lost your job, are facing a bankruptcy, are staring down an empty nest, have had a major health setback, or a combination of several of those like I have, know that you can use these as opportunities (yes, opportunities) to create different, better, more. Let me help you capitalize on this opportunity. Don’t wait until you have it all together. That’s just silly. Come even if you’re an emotional wreck. We will take care of your emotions, too. You can call me any time and we’ll talk about what’s next for you, and how to make it happen. I’m really good at that. Here’s a link to my calendar. 30 minutes free on me.