It’s been a couple of months since I’ve written to you. I promise I haven’t forgotten you. I’ve been in a major life transition of my own. Remember those? Divorce is a big one. Transition is that kittywompus (spell checker has no idea what to do with that word!) place where your life is floating around in pieces and you’re trying to figure out how the heck to put it back together. Then there’s the part about the harder you try the more elusive it becomes. Remember that?
I have been between identities…
… both professionally and personally. The good news is that the limbo has funneled me into developing a more in-depth, grounded, accepting-what is-type of spiritual practice in order to deal with it, or more like, in order to BE with it. Now that I’m ever so s-l-o-w-l-y seeing light on the other side I’m noticing some changes. There are changes in how I view myself, in how I see others, in how I see the world and how the world reflects back to me. I imaging that these insights are the gift within the chaos. Ahhhh. Such is the nature of transition.
My transition has been hard on my spouse, hard on my bank account, and hard on my ego. I’ve been at my breaking point many times. I’ve been at the edge of what I (believe I) can handle only to have Life add that one additional ‘straw’ that brings me to my knees. I’ve wanted to quit. I’ve cursed the pain of not knowing. I’ve wondered what the heck I’m supposed to be doing with my life, and why, if I’m doing the right thing, is it sooooo dang hard!
Today started with tears again. Then came the feeling of someone sitting on my chest with their fingers around my throat. Then something shifted. Maybe my spiritual practice is starting to make sense after all….
The shift had to do with…
…my current book of the moment, the Power of Now, by Eckhart Tolle. I tried reading it many years ago during my divorce transition but could only grasp a small part of what it was saying – the concepts were very foreign. Now it is an easy, though thought provoking, read (I guess I’ve gained some understanding after all). There’s something about those insights that helps me go below the surface of my circumstances and to remember who I am – at my core. To remember what is really important. To help me find stillness beneath the boisterous waves of life.
This year my theme is …
… “Remembering Who I Am.” (Remember when we identified the theme for our year back in January?) It’s taken on a life of its own. No doubt, without these difficult circumstances I wouldn’t have such grand opportunities to Remember Who I Am. I once described life as haphazardly perfect. It still seems that way. Can you relate?
All of this keeps me in touch with who I am and who I am within the context of this crazy world. I’m glad that life keeps me on my toes so that I’m always in touch with you as we figure out together how to live on this giant blue-green ball hurtling through space!
I feel a lot of gratitude for all of it today.
So, would you like to know what I’ve been up to?
I’ve redesigned my business so I can help more people going through divorce, and help in a more complete way, that is, in a way that prepares us for a happy life and new love on the other side. There are three parts:
Preventing Divorce: for those who aren’t quite ready to give up on marriage yet.
Divorcing: for those who want to work through the emotions to free up healing energy, and learn what went wrong in order to do different next time or just to understand. This includes offering the service of Professional Divorce Coach, which provides vital assistance during important meetings with the attorney or the Ex so you can remain confident, clear headed, and know what to say and how to say it, and also supports you while you put life back together on the other side.
Moving On: for those who are (at least mostly) past the tough emotions and want to rebuild a happy life. Group events cover important topics such as rebuilding trust, renewed hope, dating without heartbreak, and practical matters like dealing with your Ex, and they include individual coaching, and guest speakers.
These can take place locally in a group, or anywhere in the world via phone.
So, what do you think?
I’ve put a lot of thought into this and trust that I am providing inclusive programs that lead to not only getting through divorce, but to creating a happy life again on the other side.
You can learn more at www.BeyondDivorce.com.
I would love to hear from you!