Deep Survival

Remember this quote? “Crisis doesn’t create character; it reveals it.” Decades ago I was in an intense personal growth workshop. We were put in challenging situations designed to reveal “how we had previously educated our conscience.” I love that term.

Orgasm and Meditation—Sometimes it’s good. Sometimes it’s not.

I love my meditation time and I’m very protective of it. It’s my time to drop in to myself, to let the world go, to feel that oneness with All That Is, which, although I find it in other places,

Coming Home to Yourself

I almost started this by saying that 2020 has been good to me, but then I had to laugh. It was that eye-opening realization—again—about how much I’ve allowed myself to be defined by my circumstances. If things outside me are good, I feel [...]

A Sacred Apology

Years ago I was the Divorce Coach for a couple going through their Collaborative Divorce. They came back when they hit a communication wall while trying to discuss co-parenting. They did so many things brilliantly in our mediation time that [...]

Breathing Yourself Home – An Exercise for Finding Peace

A few years ago I put my life on hold to seek peace. True peace. Lasting peace. I've lived a painful life, like many people I'm sure and I was ready to be done with it. But how? I'd spent [...]

Healing A Heart Wound

A physical wound is a poignant metaphor for wounds of the heart. Learn the parallels and how you can use them to heal your heart.

Your Smile Can Make You Happy

We have the choice between optimism/pessimism, gratitude/disappointment, being glad or being mad. I’ve heard for years that gratitude is the solution to living happily in an unhappy/challenging world. I get it. But I don’t always feel gratitude—even if it’s good for me. Here are two tricks that work.

Benefits of Collaborative Divorce

Collaborative divorce, when compared to the traditional adversarial process, is less expensive, less stressful, less confrontational, and less time consuming. 

Evil Visited That Day

I originally wrote this for a creative writing class in 2001, a few days after the Twin Towers were struck.  I was invited to read it at a private reading for Writer's Night at Celestial Seasonings Headquarters in 2002. It [...]

Learning From Nature’s Rhythms

Do you ever feel peaceful, maybe even joyful, only to have it disappear an hour or a day later and wonder what the heck happened?

How to Divorce Without Court

The fear, conflict and anger can nearly paralyze a person’s actions and thought process.  People react to this stress in many different ways.

The Emotional Divorce

Some of the hardest decisions you will ever have to make – about family, parenting, finances and your future – must be made when you are the least able to make them.

What Relationship Conflict Really Means

I was recently watching a couple having a discussion. You know, one of those intense, trying to figure out how to communicate and connect kinds of conversations. I realized that  most people don’t know that conflict in a relationship can

Great Life After Divorce

  Nearly everyone has experienced divorce or a serious breakup. Relationships are hard, and it is mostly through trial and error that we make our way through—or not. Sometimes we see the end coming and welcome it. Other times we [...]

Do Your Memories Haunt You? How to Let Them Go

What is it about memories? When things are good memories are happy. When things aren’t going so well it seems like memories are just plain sad. I’m

Romance and Car Shopping

Cars and Romance I’ve been car shopping. As I consider the process of doing so, I’m surprised how similar the process is to finding a romantic partner. A “car guy”

The Changing Meaning of Holidays

How are you doing with the holidays? As I’ve gotten older and my children are off doing their adult lives, the holidays have changed meaning.

Midlife—Time to Confront the Life You’ve Been Living

My life is so much different now. My home has minimal drama and dramatically less negativity. It’s by no means perfect nor should it be.

Being Glee

A sizable part of overwriting my old software has been choosing what I want to plug into as opposed to being led by my feelings into old familiar patterns. In this moment I am choosing to plug into sheer glee. It is safe to do so because I said so!

Gratitude and Joy

Gratitude and Joy One of my favorite things is to wander…to follow that little voice that says “turn here” or “that looks interesting, let’s go there.”

Upheaval is Everywhere—In Nature, In Us

My life has gone through upheaval after upheaval for oh, about two decades now. I asked for growth and boy howdy, be careful what you pray for.

The Gift That Keeps On Giving

The Gift That Keeps On Giving I didn’t know just how lost I was until my life fell apart. I had no idea that Life was making a way for

Divorce for the Highly Sensitive

Divorce for the Highly Sensitive Person Everyone has a degree of sensitivity. It is part of what makes us human. We ‘feel’ the world around us. Some of us feel it

Inauguration of Donald Trump

Inauguration Brings Change Today is a changing day in America Today is Inauguration Day 2017. U.S. citizens have been clamoring for change for decades. Today that wish comes true. Donald

Is Today Your Someday?

Is Today Your Someday? Things are changing so rapidly around me, around all of us, that it’s darn hard to keep up sometimes. As my own “house” upheaval is completing

Being You During the Holidays

Being You During the Holidays I don’t know about you but I have had a love/hate relationship with the holidays. On the one hand I have a lot of happy

3 Phases of Upheaval

The 3 Phases of an Upheaval Everything in life has some version of beginning, middle, and end. Upheavals do too. Understanding the 3 phases of an upheaval is helpful so

Embrace Your Upheaval

Embrace, Don’t Resist, Your Upheaval I’ve come through another one. This time I paid more attention: to the process, to what it required of me, to the fears, to the

Life is FOR you!

Life is FOR Your Good! Even though Life seems to be against us at times, it really isn’t. It’s just that we come into our good in a round about way

The Metaphor of Moving

The Metaphor of Moving I am in the middle of moving again. This is move number 42 as far as I can recall. This is my fifth

Giving Things Away

Giving Things Away What’s up with “stuff?” I’ve had it up to my eyeballs with stuff lately. All last weekend I processed my late father’s belongings so my

Is Struggle a Distraction or Necessity

Is Struggle a Distraction or a Necessity? Struggle makes us strong. I’ve had dreams and goals for a lot of my life. I imagine that’s true of you, too.

Wrap It In Love

Wrap It In Love I’ve discovered a new practice for neutralizing life’s jolting incoming missiles. You know the ones I mean, errant thoughts or comments from others that seemingly come

Using Upheaval for Good

From Upheaval to Uplevel That’s my new slogan: From Upheaval to Uplevel as I’m settling into a new way of doing life… I’m not sure where I got the idea

The Secret to Finding Yourself

The Secret to Finding Yourself I was in turmoil for nearly two decades. I was “in it” so long I’d come to think of turmoil as normal life. What I didn’t

Choose Thoughts Wisely

Choose Thoughts Wisely I recently took my grandkids to the playground, unfortunately it was full of goatheads, those really nasty thorns that flatten your bike tires, and pierce your

Listen to Your Heart

Is It Time to Listen To Your Heart? Have you noticed how quickly life moves these days? Is it just because I’m older, or maybe busier? I’ve heard that life

Have You Lost Love?

Have You Lost Love?
That’s kind of a silly question isn’t it? If we are older than about one day, we have lost love of some kind. Or at least

Failure of a Collaborative Divorce Case

I just witnessed the failure of a collaborative divorce case for the first time. It is disheartening. They will now be going to court with their own lawyer.

The High Price of Not Living Authentically

Living Authentically Living authentically. What exactly does that mean? How do we do it? Where do we sell ourselves short? There are hundreds of ways we avoid living authentically. Every

A Life You Love

A Life You Love Dreaming A Life You Love How much time do you spend thinking about what it will mean to have a life you love? For

Tears – What Do Yours Look Like?

Tears – What Do Yours Look Like I was recently introduced to the work of Rose Lynn Fisher who studies, and photographs, tears. I found it fascinating

Are You a Burden Or Blessing?

Burden or Blessing? I woke up early this morning. 4:00 a.m. seems to be the time for processing. Have you noticed that? Some little zinger will zip across my

Why Journal?

Your Journal is Your Friend I encourage people all the time to call friends to talk with them. It’s so important to have a place to spill your guts

Conquering the Inner Critic

Are You Tired of Your Inner Critic? Are you aware of your inner critic? You know … that voice in your head that tells you you can’t do anything

Life Reassembled

Everything Falls Apart Piles of mud, chain link fence, equipment yet to be assembled, a sharp contrast to where the new and pristine playground I saw today. It was

5 Ways to Make Your Mornings Magical

5 Ways to Make Your Mornings Magical We all have those days where we have to dash off to something or other but is that the majority of

6 Components of Your Emotional Divorce Support System

Mapping Your Divorce Support Resources Ending a relationship without a solid emotional divorce support net in place is quite daunting. You will be required to make some of the

Transitions – Insights Do Come

Transitions – Insights Do Come I’ve experienced many transitions. So have you, even if you didn’t recognize it at the time. Having just come through another one, I’m gaining all kinds

A Season of Discontent

A Season of Discontent Discontent is hard to live with. Discontent with life. Discontent with partner. Discontent with work. If you are one who is in such a season,

Waiting or Procrastinating?

Are Waiting and Procrastinating the Same? I love it that so many of you respond to my writings. It’s fun to hear your perspectives. Do keep it up!

What’s Wrong With Waiting?

What’s Wrong With Waiting? There’s nothing like a car crash with a head injury to force a change in habits. I’ve had to slow down—a lot. I didn’t realize

The Upside of Emotional Crashes

Three Tools for Change When it is time to “uplevel” I recognize that I need a lot of support—a team if you will. My team is one of my

Three Tools for Change

Three Tools for Change When it is time to “uplevel” I recognize that I need a lot of support—a team if you will. My team is one of my


Upleveling For years, up until just a few months ago actually, I was convinced that divorce was a tragedy that I had to both survive and recover from to

Create Something New

Finding Peace and Happiness Again Are you still off-kilter since your divorce and feeling anything but peace and happiness? Don’t give up. There’s little that is worse than being

The Wake Up Call

My Wake Up Call? I’ve been meaning to write you…. but my brain isn’t working right. I was in a car accident last week coming home from teaching divorce

What To Do When Your Ex is Non-Compliant With the Divorce Settlement

When Your Ex is Non-Compliant It wasn’t easy, but you made it.  Maybe you had an attorney to help you, maybe you didn’t.  Some how, some way, the day

5 Keys for Letting Go

5 Keys for Letting Go Letting go of the memories of your divorce is imperative if you want to create a happier life going forward and yet, we so

Easter as Metaphor for Your New Life

Easter as Metaphor Spring in the natural world, which is often heralded by the Easter and Passover holidays, is an awakening. Plants long dormant wake from their slumber as

Stonewalling – 5 Tips for Breaking Through

Relationship Destroying Behaviors: Stonewalling There are four behaviors so deadly to a relationship, whether romantic, family and friends, or business, that they have been called ‘The Four Horsemen of

6 Tips for Defending Against Defensiveness

Relationship Destroying Behavior: Defensiveness There are four behaviors so deadly to a relationship, be it a romantic, familial, or business, that they have been called ‘The Four Horsemen of

4 Tips for Managing Contempt

Relationship Destroying Behavior: Defensiveness There are four behaviors so deadly to a relationship, be it a romantic, familial, or business, that they have been called ‘The Four Horsemen of

Anti Valentine’s Day

If you’re newly divorced, Valentine’s Day can be a miserable event. One of life’s little digs that things have changed…

6 Tips for Reducing Criticism

Relationship Destroying Behaviors: Criticism Most divorcing people I’ve talked with dream of having a good relationship one day. A relationship that is playful, honoring, companionable, intimate, safe, and offers

Radical Self Care During Divorce – 6 Proven Strategies

Radical Self Care During Divorce How are you feeling after the new year? Is it starting out the way you hoped? If you’re going through a divorce, and January

The Collaborative Way to Divorce

The Collaborative Team Like most things, when it comes to divorce, there are better and worse ways to go about it. I like to tell people that the best

Dream Your Theme 2015

What does 2015 Hold? This is such an important time of year. A scheduled transition. One year closing out. Another year waiting in the wings… for you and me

Ditch the New Year’s Resolutions

Instead of New Year’s Resolutions I gave up on New Year’s resolutions over a decade ago. I haven’t missed them one whit. You might want to ditch New Year’s

7 Ways the Holidays Break Struggling Relationships

The Holidays and Struggling Relationships I recently heard that two weeks before Christmas is when most relationships break up. At the same time I learned that the 2-week-before Christmas

5 Ways to Survive Seeing Your Ex

Most of us have some trepidation at the thought of accidentally bumping into the Ex before we’re ready. Maybe your kids are graduating or having a birthday, or perhaps your

Holidays for the Divorced and Divorcing

Holidays Are Hard For the Divorced and Divorcing Holidays are traditionally a time for family but for the divorced and divorcing they can be anything but happy. Most of

Avoiding Crazy Relationship Behaviors

My Best Solution for Avoiding Crazy Relationship Behaviors I hear a lot of relationship stories. Divorce stories. Dating stories. I am continually amazed at the creative misery that people who were

6 Ways to Learn From Your Rebound Relationship

Most of us have heard of a rebound relationship. It is a do-over, a repeat, almost like a mini-marriage. There isn’t a lot of choosing, but more a falling

5 Ways to Negotiate Your Divorce

Are you brand new to divorce? Are you wondering where to start? There are so many things to think about it can be overwhelming. For many of us a divorce is

10 Tips for Living Life in Color

Live YOUR Life in Color The Great Transformation Living Life in Color is the move from life as it once was, the move from the tedious day-to-day routines

The Road Less Traveled

Divorce—The Road Less Traveled As my manner is I have taken the road less traveled. I’m sitting on a plateau above the Colorado River in the bronze of early

Feeling Abandoned

Dumped and Feeling Abandoned In a previous post I mentioned two types of folks who have the most difficulty getting through divorce.

Coping with Grief Reminders

You are probably well aware that your sad feelings don’t automatically end once your divorce completes. Many memories still linger. Many experiences need to be over written. It takes time

Supporting Your Structured Separation

Coaching Your Structured Separation I was at a book signing for my Beyond Divorce book recently and a woman came up to me afterward to make a confession. “I’ve

Home Base After Divorce

Divorce and Your Home I don’t know about you, but having a home base is vital to my happiness. Maybe that is true for you, too. My soul craves a

Making Things Better for Mork

Inspired by Robin Williams I was running errands recently in the hustle and bustle of urban life. It all seemed so helter skelter, unorganized, chaotic. A thought came to me:

A Good Relationship

What makes a good relationship? Since I work with divorcing people, I am often asked: “What makes a good relationship?” I wonder myself. Don’t you? Any question I am asked

The Impact of Relationship Differences

What makes a good relationship? Since I work with divorcing people, I am often asked: “What makes a good relationship?” I wonder myself. Don’t you? Any question I am asked

Five Turning Points of Divorce Recovery

Beyond Divorce has a mission. That mission is getting you truly beyond your divorce and back into a fulfilling life. Creating a fulfilling life starts with a powerful and

A Healing Separation – Can you save your marriage by leaving it?

Phyllis and George hit their limit. They’d had the same arguments over and over, never resolving anything. “I’ve had it. I can’t do this any more,” Phyllis screams. They go

Forgive Yourself

Forgive Yourself Energy is a funny thing. When you have it, you don’t think much about it. When you don’t, it seems like a most precious commodity. I haven’t had

Healing A Painful Relationship

Help for Healing a Painful Relationship A relationship that isn’t working is one of the most painful of life’s experiences. Not just painful, sometimes it’s downright exasperating taking a

A New Year – Make it Great!

A New Year. Make it the way You Want it! It’s a new start. A clean slate. A blank sheet of paper and a new box of crayons. What could

Relationship Skills I Wish I’d Had

We learn a lot about ourselves and others, when we divorce. Things that went right, things that went wrong. Things we would do differently next time. From time to time, clients will write me about something fabulous they've learned. I [...]

Mastering Our Thoughts

Mastering Our Thoughts Mastering our thoughts is not a new idea. I often come across books, sometimes books from long ago, with profound wisdom. When I find them, I

The Flood

As usual, I seek the symbolism or metaphor in such an event. I imagine those of you who are divorcing can relate deeply to being caught in a current that has a life of its own, leaving a wake of destruction. A life rearranged after its passing. Piles of…

Let Grief Change You

I’ve known Steve Gilbert for over 30 years. He’s stood by my side through most of my life’s struggles, always being about 5 years ahead of me… just enough to be my mentor and guide. I’ve been able to be his strength and guide on occasion also. Our friendship…

Are We Broken?

I have such respect for the people I work with. They are right up against it. “It” being, “Should I go, or should I stay?” Or, “I’m on my own, now what?” Or, “How the ‘H’ am I ever going to get through this?” Or, “I am so overwhelmed…

Lost Dreams—New Identity

The following is an article I started nearly three years ago. I went poking around in old files today, to find something you might resonate with and found it.

Betrayal-the bigger picture

When I originally wrote this article I had so much to say that I decided to split it into two. It turned out that there was a perfect line of delineation – between the need to feel the feelings of the betrayal, and what we might actually learn from…

Forgiveness – Feel Your Feelings

An important announcement! I’ve chosen the cover for my soon to be published book. Visit to get a peak and read chapter titles!

A Financial Breakup

I hope you like our newly designed announcements panel. We have some fun, informative, and healing things coming up that you might want to be part of so click on through and find out what those are about. My book project is coming along. It’s in final editing and…

Untying the Knot in the Digital Age

This post is by guest author, Dave Taylor of Dave is a father of three and regularly blogs about his life through, and beyond, divorce as a father. Dave is also a technology guru. He has written over twenty technology-related books and regularly writes a tech column for…

Want to Divorce? Wait til January

Divorce is hard at any time. Particularly difficult during the holidays. My former spouse told me he wanted to divorce on Thanksgiving Day and wanted to tell the kids at Christmas when they all came home. I just couldn’t do that to them. What a way to ruin Christmas…

Surviving and Thriving Through the Holidays

The holidays can be tricky as a newly single person. Usually a time for family, and family traditions, we are made painfully aware that things have changed.

Moving is Inevitable

ANNOUNCEMENTS: News from Beyond Divorce. Starting mid-January Step Two of the Beyond Divorce program. Check it out.

A Structured Separation

Waiting too long to address marital problems creates polarized thinking. Relationship Bliss… or Divorce. If I don’t love you… I must hate you. If you’re not willing to make me happy… you will just make me miserable.

How to Avoid Getting Triggered

Life is so metaphoric, I just love it. Most everything is a symbol for something else, here to teach us when viewed with open eyes.

Play Therapy Helps Kids Cope

One announcement. Beyond Divorce – Recovery class starts September 13 and 16. See “Services” on for all the info!

Surviving Divorce-Part 2

This is the second part of a three-part article detailing divorce survival tips. After reading the book Deep Survival – Who Lives, Who Dies, and Why, by Lawrence Gonzales I realized that divorce is itself a survival situation.

Surviving Divorce-Part 3

This is the final part of a three-part article detailing divorce survival tips. After reading the book Deep Survival – Who Lives, Who Dies, and Why, by Lawrence Gonzales I realized that divorce is itself a survival situation.

Surviving Divorce-Part 1

In a recent divorce class two women asked if I had something written about the emotional devastation and preoccupation people experience while going through a divorce so they could give it to friends

Your Divorce is Over-Now What?

When you’re in the middle of the chaos of divorce it seems like it will never be done, never get better, never feel normal again.

Sex After Divorce

There is mounting evidence that the health of a mother (emotional, physical, and spiritual health) while pregnant has life-long impact on her child.

It’s Up To Parents

Sometimes it’s hard to know the right thing to do for children during divorce. It may be even harder to implement if it requires being civil to an Ex you’d rather never see again.

10 Lessons Learned After Divorce

Susan attended my divorce recovery class 5 years ago. She contacted me again recently because her Ex was getting re-married.

Beyond Divorce Launches!

My transition has been hard on my spouse, hard on my bank account, and hard on my ego. I’ve been at my breaking point many times.

Divorce Without War

I usually write my newsletters about something I’m learning in my own life that I believe will also be of interest to you.

Your Soul’s Desire for 2012

It’s a new start. Do you feel it? Have you felt the new surge of hope that has risen with the start of 2012?  Yay. Our world could use a little hope right now.

Living in Gratitude

Life is such a mixed bag. As Forrest Gump’s mother would say, “You never know what you’re going to get.” Life provides endless opportunities to choose

Imagine There are No Labels

I have been (purposely) media deprived for years now. It’s just too depressing. Lately, despite my best efforts to keep it at bay the world has been closing in around me through the chatter of people I care about – colleagues

The Hurdles of Life

Think of all we could accomplish if we didn’t encounter obstacles in the pursuit of our dreams. We humans are creative — gifted in so many ways — to the benefit of self

Divorce for the Highly Sensitive Person

All of us have a degree of sensitivity. It is part of what makes us human. We ‘feel’ the world around us.

Banished Parts Want to Come Home

I am endeavoring to reincorporate some lost, or banished, parts of myself from long ago.  They want to come back.  I don’t recognize them.  I’m not sure I welcome them.

Reassembling Life

When it comes to writing this newsletter I pay close attention to what is going on in my own life to see if it might be useful to you.

The Power of Choice

When it comes to getting through divorce or other significant life transition the ability to choose is your greatest asset. 

The Spirit of Letting Go

I’ve had a number of conversations recently with people who are aware that life as we have known it is changing.

Life by Design, Not by Default

There is a lot going on in the world right now. Every conversation I have, or even overhear, people are asking big questions.

Fear or Love – That is the Question

Fear during divorce can extreme for it is fear upon fear.  It is like a ghost that lurks about, jumping in from dark corners, pulling the rug out from under you when you least expect it.

To Dream or Not to Dream

I gain a lot of personal insights as I write this newsletter. What I’ve recently learned has allowed me to put the whip down and let myself just BE a little bit instead of always DOing.

From Chaos to Clarity

Life events move us from place to place, event to event, ending to new beginning. Somehow, in the process we move along a path from a least authentic self to a higher,


When I think of this ‘abiding’ place I sometimes get the sense of a Great Lap.  I see myself nestled into the cozy, soft folds of a robe like those of a monk,

A New Year

There it stands. Gleaming. Mysterious. The doorway to 2011. On the other side of the door your life in 2011, awaits.

Memories are for Sharing

I’m several years out of my divorce and many more years out of my marital home and it’s just starting to hit me. I’m sure I preemptively grieved the lost memories.

Creating Space

Is your life full of busy-ness? Some days I feel like I’m drowning in busy-ness. I’m not the only one.

Installing Love

I have no idea where this originated. Someone sent it to me via email. If you wrote it and want credit, let me know.

Loss – Rejection or Completion?

The question recently came back to me in the blunt ending of a budding friendship I had hoped would develop.

The Need to be Heard

If we’re happy, we want the other person to share in the happiness with us. If we don’t get the response we want we’ll either move on to the next person

Radical Curiosity

Recently I was working outside on my laptop. A small florescent green bug came to roost. It marched back and forth on the top of the screen from one end to the other.

Parenting, Grandparenting and Purpose

I take my job as grandparent as seriously as I took my parenting. There are some things that only a grandparent can impart.

Business or Romance

I’m trying to decide if I should proceed with a business endeavor that will require a lot of relationship savvy on the part of everyone involved.

Vision, Promise, and Commitment

Culturally we are losing sight of the power of promise and commitment. Instead of stepping up and into it we are watering it down to our own wishy washy self-serving level.

The Heart of the Matter – Eagles

Don Henley says it took him 48 years to write and 5 minutes to sing. Anyone who has experienced relationship loss will be able to identify with this song. Here is the chorus.

The Fourteen Dating Traps

You believe that you need to make yourself more appealing to attract and “sell” yourself with an attractive packaging and presentation.

Living Well in 2010

This post is reprinted in gratitude and thanks to John Lange, a recent graduate of our Divorce Recovery seminar.

In Pursuit of Happiness

How big can we as humans get? How small can we leave behind? What might be possible if we co-create rather than compete?

Sex Before Remarriage (Final) – Sacred Sex

There is mounting evidence that the health of a mother (emotional, physical, and spiritual health) while pregnant has life-long impact on her child.

Should I Get Back Together With My Ex??

I’m surprised at how often I am asked that, actually. I’m doubly surprised when I hear it after watching people go through tremendous pain at the hand of that Ex (or so their perception is) in divorce class.

Sex Before Remarriage (6) – Friends or Lovers?

Friendship has different behaviors and expectations than Dating; Committed has different behaviors and expectations than Friends with Benefits, and so on.

Sex Before Remarriage (5) – The Importance of Knowing

And besides all that, having sex with someone is a big deal.  It’s not on the same level as eating cereal or taking a bath. 

Sex Before Remarriage (4) – The Power of Passion

When approaching sex in this way foreplay can last a really long time – months or even years.  What, do you suppose, would an orgasm be like after 90 days of foreplay?

Sex Before Marriage (Part 3)- An Important Relationship Skill

The entire series titled Sex Before Remarriage, can be found under Sexuality or Second Time Around, on the menu bar.

Sex Before Remarriage (Part 2) The Heart Speaks

One of the drawbacks for women is losing their power in a relationship by moving in with a man, which includes a sexual relationship, without mutual commitment.

Sex Before Remarriage (1) – Are You Equally Matched?

Compromising not only sets the couple up for resentment later on, it can cause soul damage to the one who compromises.

Sex Before Remarriage (Intro) – A Discussion

Although marriage is considered the ultimate commitment when it comes to relationship, I would like to address this question as sex before commitment instead of sex before marriage.

Your Dreams. What’s Stopping You?

First the dream; then the reality.  A corollary to having a compelling vision is having a vivid sense of what your life will be like if you do not create a better future. 

Finances Second Time Around

I found an interesting little article that may be of help to those stepping into another, beyond dating, relationship. 

Love is….

I was talking to a friend today about love.  We were surprised at all the meanings there can be behind 4 little letters that symbolize such big ideas. L-O-V-E is…..

The Fine Art of Looking Back

I learn so much just by observing the world that is around me at any given moment. It’s all one big metaphor.

What in the World is a CFI? Part II

Using a combination of intuition and training, the CFI will write their observations in a report which is filed with the court and provided to the parents and their attorneys.

What in the World is a CFI? Part I

You know they are struggling to accept the breakup of your marriage, the loss of their family. 

A Big Myth of Children and Divorce

When we are dealing with an unhappy marriage and trying to sort things out we want to believe that if we are happy, our kids will also be happy. 

A Life of Purpose

I talk with a lot of  people  in all stages of divorce. I am often asked, “How can you continually work with those sad, angry people?” I don’t see them that way.

Benefits of Divorce Recovery

The first few weeks tend to the hard work of overcoming the emotions of divorce, but weeks 5 through week 10 are exploratory learning.

Difference Between Men and Women During Divorce

Jeannine was recently interviewed by Dave Taylor, blogger extraordinaire. One of the questions he asked was:

Why So Many Divorces?

Jeannine was recently interviewed by Dave Taylor, blogger extraordinaire. One of the questions he asked is:

How Long Does It Take to Heal from Divorce?

I have observed that it takes a couple of years for a person to recover on their own, but participating in a divorce recovery class can dramatically reduce that time. 

Transformation’s Struggle

The butterfly spent the rest of its existence dragging along on the ground because of its thin body and stunted wings. Never would it fly.

The Value of Wandering

I recently returned from my annual sabbatical journey to the desert.  A place of refreshment, grounding, meditation, peace, connection with Spirit.

Authentic Living

I regularly ask myself, “Who am I?  What is my life about – today?”  My desire is to always live from my core values.  That is the bulls eye around which all other goals fall.  My gifts and talents live there.

The Honeymoon is Over

Preparing my home for sale was a lot like going on a date—dressing her up pretty and putting a little makeup on.

The Inner Parent

We humans have a whole team of parts, voices, possible ways of being available to us.

Getting the Love We Need

There are a variety of the causes of ended love relationships. It is always more complicated than a good relationship gone bad.

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