I'm surprised at how often I am asked that, actually. I'm doubly surprised when I hear it after watching people go through tremendous pain at the hand of that Ex (or so their perception is) in divorce class.
Friendship has different behaviors and expectations than Dating; Committed has different behaviors and expectations than Friends with Benefits, and so on.
And besides all that, having sex with someone is a big deal. It's not on the same level as eating cereal or taking a bath.
When approaching sex in this way foreplay can last a really long time – months or even years. What, do you suppose, would an orgasm be like after 90 days of foreplay?
The entire series titled Sex Before Remarriage, can be found under Sexuality or Second Time Around, on the menu bar.
One of the drawbacks for women is losing their power in a relationship by moving in with a man, which includes a sexual relationship, without mutual commitment.
Compromising not only sets the couple up for resentment later on, it can cause soul damage to the one who compromises.
Although marriage is considered the ultimate commitment when it comes to relationship, I would like to address this question as sex before commitment instead of sex before marriage.
I was talking to a friend today about love. We were surprised at all the meanings there can be behind 4 little letters that symbolize such big ideas. L-O-V-E is.....
I talk with a lot of people in all stages of divorce. I am often asked, "How can you continually work with those sad, angry people?" I don't see them that way.