A Divorce Coach Makes a Big Difference
Divorces are primarily emotional events with some legal and financial components. If you’re new to the divorce process, you likely don’t know how to begin, how to protect yourself, how to keep things calm, how to talk to your kids. A divorce coach is a vital partner in all of those things. There is a lot at stake. This isn’t the time for trial and error. The consequences are too severe.
- Are you divorcing but don’t know where to start or what to do?
- Do you need to tell the kids and want to know the best way?
- Are you wondering how to split important belongings in a way that makes sense?
- Are you an emotional wreck and wonder if it’s normal, and how to make it better?
- Do you and your soon to be Ex need to have some hard conversations that you don’t know how to broach?
- Would you like honest feedback and solid information you can use right now?
- Do you have a million questions but aren’t sure where to go for answers?
- Do you need someone to lean on for support and guidance?
If you’re like most divorcing people you answered ‘yes’ to many of those questions. Going through a divorce is one of the most difficult of life’s experiences. You needn’t go through it alone. With me by your side you know you will have help with all of those things and more. You can lean on me until you have the strength to lean on your own.
Whether your divorce is mediated, litigated, pro se, or collaborative, I will help you:
- Keep fears, tears, and anger at a minimum
- Create and maintain a safe, non-toxic environment for discussion
- Help you (with or without) your soon to be Ex avoid fear-inducing triggers that could derail the process
- Avoid feeling intimidated or bullied
- Remain proactive rather than reactive
- Know what to say and how to say it
- Stay present, positive, and focused on solutions
- Feel empowered at important meetings
- Remain open to beneficial alternatives
- Work with your soon to be Ex in a collaborative way
- Save a fair amount of money in attorney fees.
I have filled the role of professional divorce coach many times. A role that has proven so useful that it has been adopted as a vital role in the collaborative divorce process (there called Collaborative Divorce Facilitator or CDF.
Be Kind to Yourself and Save Some Money
In addition to the emotional benefits, the financial savings of having me on your team are worth noting. My coaching rates are about half the hourly rate of an attorney. Although attorneys are usually compassionate to your situation they are not trained to work with the emotional aspects of divorce. Paying attorney rates for a place to vent your emotions gets expensive. Your attorney can listen but may not be able to offer much in the way of substantive direction for the fear, anger, tears, guilt and other emotions that are taking you over. In addition to things running more smoothly, I help you preserve your dignity by going through the process from your most resourceful self. This reduces your costs, and reduces the over all impact your divorce could otherwise have on you and your family.
I’ve witnessed hundreds of ending marriages. Those who come out the best get help with the emotional aspects. I bring top-notch professional help to your side at meetings with your attorney, mediator, child advocate, financial expert, and other professionals.
Individual or Together?
I can work with you as an individual to help you stay grounded, set goals, and show up in a calm but powerful way. If it is hard for you to attend meetings with your Ex, or soon-to-be Ex, my presence will be invaluable.
I can work with the two of you together as a neutral 3rd party to help calm fears, negotiate for your needs from your most resourceful selves, work through intense emotions, give you positive direction with your children, decide who stays in the home and many other sticking points. Working these things through in my office, rather than in meetings with your highly paid attorneys gets you better answers at a fraction of the cost.
Learn more about the role of divorce coach in the collaborative divorce process, here. Collaborative Divorce Facilitator
Learn more about the role of divorce coach in mediation, here. Mediation—Help When You Need It