A New Approach to Relationship Success
What if you could have the relationship of your dreams, allowing you to be who you are, for your partner to live into his or her fullness, and for your relationship to expand to include both of you in a brand new way, without having to end the relationship you have now?
Relationships need to reinvent
Relationships are constantly tweaking. Minor tweaks are fairly easy to keep up with. My experience is that big reinventions take place about every 10-year mark. There’s something about those anniversaries…. Sometimes we just ignore it, shove our feelings under the rug and try to white-knuckle through it hoping things will “get back to normal.” They rarely do. The relationship screams for change. More quickly these days than in the past. It’s healthy!
Relationship success isn’t such a mystery
The steps are knowable and doable—although the doable part can be tricky without help. But, if you are coachable, you can absolutely design a new improved relationship. The thing most of us don’t know is that we cannot solve our old relational problems when we are the same people who created them. In order to change things we have to grow to become the partners for whom those changes are easy. With guidance, these changes can take place. Without guidance you can do a lot of running around in circles in the same old blame game. Don’t do that.
Would you like to understand:
- The antidote to the four most potent relationship-ending behaviors?
- How your introvert/extrovert, spender/saver and other seemingly opposite personality traits can compliment each other?
- The real meaning of conflict?
- How you can use your differences as strengths?
- The #1 relational dynamic that ends relationships and how to grow past it?
- How to recognize and mature childhood patterns that have carried into your relationship?
- How healthy boundaries can increase love and reduce conflict in your union?
- How to rebalance the roles you’ve each taken on? How to relieve role nausea and identify missing roles?
- The three levels of relating and how to use them to your benefit?
- What your woman needs in relationship? What your man needs in relationship?
- How the two of you can be on the same team to resolve important issues?
As a Mediator and Relationship Strategist with extensive training in systems coaching, and a guide to hundreds of ending relationships, I bring you a perfect combination of tools to explore your relationship in a very real way and am equipped to support you in the growth and changes required to transform it. No games. No blame. No dissecting. Just exploring the dynamics—the structure of your relationship. The Third Entity of your relationship has its own needs, wants and wisdom. We can listen in.
Coaching is Different
Coaching is forward-moving, solution-oriented, pro-active and goal-centric, which makes it an ideal solution for those who don’t want to talk about problems as much as DO something about them. Men often prefer coaching to therapy. (Most therapies don’t really work anyway. A relationship has no childhood to fix. Other tools are needed for relationship success.)
I’ll Commit to You if You’ll Commit to the Process
I reduce my fees for those who want to commit to the change process. It takes time to work through the kinks and I am willing to provide financial incentive to those who commit to the process. You didn’t get where you are in a few weeks, and you won’t get out of it in a few weeks either, but you can absolutely create a brand new marriage as brand new partners.
“Jeannine started coaching us at a very critical time in our marriage. We had been spiraling down a negative path for a long time and needed someone else to look at what we were doing and give us tools to change. Jeannine is a real positive coach, having us look at our differences as a good thing, building a whole new marriage on what we have instead of [make believe] dreams, giving us ‘exercises’ to put in practice and experience what we learned. When we felt a week of back sliding, she would say, ‘but I see your baby steps and see you moving forward.’ We especially appreciate Jeannine’s insight and God given discernment of her coaching. We look forward to our weekly meeting with her.” ~ Jim and Peggy
If your partner won’t come
If your partner isn’t yet ready to participate, I can work with you individually. A marriage is a system. A system is like a mobile, finely balanced… until it isn’t. This means that if you change, the dynamics in your relationship will change also. Period. Your partner will have to respond to those changes in some way. S/he may become willing to explore some options at that point. S/he may not. Either way, you’ve gotten more information and are more empowered than before.
“As usual you worked your magic and helped us to get back on course. You are so wonderful and I/we so appreciate your focus and “presence” when you are working with us. Your insights, observations and thoughts have been invaluable. Thank you. I honestly feel so blessed to have you in my/our life.” ~ K.
Your next step:
I like to start with a Relationship Assessment, which is a one-time, 90-minute session where I am able to identify the strengths and weaknesses in your relationship. I will tell you what I learn, what I believe it will take to move through/change, then you get to decide if it is worth the effort, after all, you are the ones doing the work of it.
When you’re ready to move forward, we can structure the length and spacing of sessions in a way that works best for you.