A Healthy Divorce
If you are clear that you want to part ways, you should know that there are better ways than others to proceed. The way you divorce has a lot to do with your future happiness, the health of your co-parenting relationship and your financial health.
The first thing I encourage my clients to do is to slow things down. Many people try to move through quickly because they just want it to be over. That is understandable. But, the divorce process has its own rhythm and bucking that rhythm will do little more than cause you to make poor decisions and wear yourself out. There is another way. When you slow things down the process itself slows down. You create the time you need to make important decisions, to heal, to think about what you want going forward, to get clear about who you want in your corner and how, and many other things. Slowing things down never harms and always benefits. This can be hard if your Ex is driving the divorce. Talk to me about ways to slow it down.
The Easier Way
We all come to separation and divorce from different backgrounds, length of relationship, financial health, number and ages of children, emotional strengths, wounds of all sorts, outside resources, and skills to get through. There is no cookie cutter divorce. There is no way to determine how long yours will take or the obstacles you will encounter. What I do know is that those who have support for the emotional aspects of their divorce get through faster and with less residual damage. We can talk about the best resources for you.
Benefits of Coaching
It is important that you make the decisions before you from your wisest self. Read more about the benefits of having a Professional Divorce Coach in your corner here. Coaching can benefit you individually and the two of you together. One of the biggest difficulties people face is discussing the hard topics, you know, those untouchable topics that you have avoided because they are just too fiery. I am very skilled to help you with the conscious conversations you need to have to gently tease your lives apart. I will help you develop a plan for separation that keeps your family as intact as possible. We can discuss how to tell your kids and support them. The impact on your community (yes there is one) and how you want that to go. And other items that come up along the way.
The way you divorce has a lot to do with how well life will go for you post-divorce. Collaborative Divorce is growing in popularity for good reasons. Divorces are legal, financial and emotional. The Collaborative team has you covered in all areas. Follow the links to read more.
Mediation is also popular offering a kinder, gentler way to divorce than hiring mean lawyers. Both of you can work with one professional. The caveat is that a mediator, even a divorce-mediator, cannot give you legal advice and often a separate consult with a financial person is needed. Call me to discuss more options.
If you are near Boulder County, Colorado can also attend a free information seminar to get answers to your legal process questions the first Thursday of every month.
5-step Coaching—Recover and Rebuild Your Confidence
This is a private coaching program one-on-one with me based on the 5-turning points I identified while writing my book. Personal coaching allows us to customize your program to utilize your strengths, meet your needs and schedule, use the resources you already have in place before adding more, and other factors. Read more about the 5-step coaching program here. Divorce is overwhelming in so many different ways. Your future, your family, your finances are at stake. You want to be at your most resourceful to make the decisions you need to make and maintain the level of health you need. I’ve guided and supported hundreds of people through the divorce maze. I’m here for you, too.