Beyond Divorce Recovery and Empowerment
Beyond Divorce Recovery and Empowerment is a 3-phase program that will take you from devastation through deep discovery to living a full, authentic life. If you are local to Boulder/Denver you can participate in Phase One: Rebuild group program. Below you will find a brief summary of the session topics covered in this first phase class format. Click “Enroll” at any time to take you to the registration page.
Get Better Faster
At this link you will find the experiences people have had with the program. And here you can read what various professionals in the divorce field have said about the program and their clients’ experiences. None of these “testimonials” are made up. They don’t need to be. People get better participating in this program. Better in ways they never imagined.
Rebuild is a 7-session program
Each session has its own topic for discussion and there is plenty of time for learning, sharing, being supported in your unique situation.
Participate One of Two Ways:
- Locally you can attend with others in a group program. Be sure to check out the testimonials of people who have done it. Groups provide proven healing components that individual work does not, one of which is providing the opportunity to learn from a variety of people with different experiences, which gives you multi-faceted feedback. You also realize you aren’t alone and you aren’t crazy.
- Work one-on-one with me. If you are not local, don’t like groups, or want individualized attention you can work with me directly.. We will customize your program to meet you right where you are and move you forward at the pace you need.
The Beyond Divorce Recovery—Rebuild program…
Call me any time. I’ve been there and done that and know how important it is to talk in these early stages. There are things you can do right now to calm the chaos and feel better.
Session One – Program Overview, Self-Care, Assessment
You may come into this session feeling lonely, hurt, afraid, angry or a combination of all of them. These are normal feelings of divorce, and you will soon learn that you are not alone and that you don’t have to stay in the emotional turmoil. You will learn the importance of radical self-care and complete an assessment to get a bird’s eye view of the impact divorce is having on your life.
Session Two —Learn What Went Wrong
Were you a perfectionist? Caretaker? Critical? Absent? Most of us don’t realize how immature we are in our relationships until they break down. The things we learned in childhood were intended to provide us with important relational skills and equip us for adult relationships. If we didn’t get those skills, we brought our childish ways to our adult relationships. Learn the impact to your relationship, and how to participate in a healthier way in the future.
Session Three—Let go of Grief, Worry and Fear
Saying goodbye is difficult. Grieving, though painful, is the single most effective thing you can do to move forward. There are different grief experiences for those who want the divorce, those who don’t, and those who feel compelled to leave because a partner won’t change. You will participate in a powerful exercise that will untie the knots so you can move on. This is an important night for healing and change.
Get relief from fear, worry, anxiety, loneliness and guilt. Complete a Relationship History Assessment to learn major up and downs in your marriage and how they have led you to where you are today.
Session Four – You Get to Be Mad: Dealing with Anger
Do you sometimes feel like slashing tires or breaking things? The anger you feel is probably justified, but it probably won’t serve you to express it the way you feel it. Learn the differences between mature and immature anger, and some positive, non-destructive, and pro-active ways to release that anger energy.
Session Five – Set Yourself Free: Forgiveness and Boundaries
Forgiveness is for you. It will set you free when you can let it. Learn what it is, how to access it even when you don’t feel like it, and how to gain the freedom that forgiving brings.
Were you hurt in your marriage because you didn’t know how to stop harmful things from happening to you? Or that you should stop them? You may have tolerated a lot of bad behavior from your partner trying to keep your marriage together. Learn the basics of boundaries: why, how, and when to set those important limits to protect yourself and those you care about. For many attendees this is brand new and very useful knowledge.
Session Six – Feel Good Again: Self-Worth
Nothing damages self-worth like having the person you have loved and counted on withdraw their love, or worse, become your enemy. The good news is that your self-worth isn’t about them. You get to feel good about yourself no matter what your former partner, or anyone else thinks, says, or does. There’s still a lot of love out there, you will experience a good bit of it this night.
Session Seven – Let Go and Plan Ahead
It’s time to celebrate all your hard work. This next version of your life needs special consideration. Where are you now? WHO are you now? What is it time to let go of? What resources will you need doing forward? This is a fulfilling and illuminating night where you’ll realize how far you’ve come, but also realize how far there is yet to go.
Completing this part of the program has prepared you for the next phase of your recovery process—the fun part! Now you’re ready to discover who you are on the other side of this transition…but not just in the old ways. Your heartbreak has opened new terrain both inside and outside of you. It’s your time to create new, better, different, more!
After attending the divorce recovery program participants report that they are better able to:
- Handle stress
- Meet challenges with more confidence
- Be better parents
- Make friends
- Accept people and situations as they are
- Understand themselves better
- Experience more peace and hope