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The Gift of Struggle

Is Struggle a Distraction or a Necessity?

The Gift of Struggle

 

Struggle makes us strong. I’ve had dreams and goals for a lot of my life. I imagine that’s true of you, too. One of the things I have consistently asked of Spirit is to help me become the person who can create my dreams, which got me to thinking about what is needed to create a life I wanted to live—and it wasn’t what I initially thought.

Things Are Not the Dream

As human beings we need things. Things make us feel happy and safe, […]

The Secret to Finding Yourself

The Secret to Finding Yourself

I’ve known for nearly two decades that I was in turmoil. I’d been in it so long I’d come to think that turmoil is just the way life is. What I didn’t realize is how lost in the weeds I’d been until I recently found myself in a peaceful meadow. Like the noisy refrigerator in the corner of the room, I didn’t really notice the clamoring I have been living with until it turned off. Are you interested in finding yourself, too?

After so long, I’d gotten used […]

Listen to Your Heart

Is It Time to Listen To Your Heart?

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Have you noticed how quickly life moves these days? Is it just because I’m older, or maybe busier? I’ve heard that life is like a roll of toilet paper (going faster at the end) but I’m a little shocked that it goes this fast. Time to hang on tight cuz things are moving.

In a lot of ways speedy movement is good news. Just like they say about Colorado weather. If you don’t like it this 5 minutes, wait a few and it will be entirely […]

Have You Lost Love?

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Have You Lost Love?

That’s kind of a silly question isn’t it? If we are older than about one day, we have lost love of some kind. Or at least it feels that way.

If you feel like you’ve lost love, and want it back, this article is for you.

Although I would have pushed back on anyone who tried to tell me this in the past, I have come to know that we cannot lose love. Why?

Love lives in us, not outside us.

Life events, upbringing, along with evidence we’ve gathered to the […]

Three Tools for Change

Three Tools for Change

Tools For Change

When it is time to “uplevel” I recognize that I need a lot of support—a team if you will. My team is one of my tools for change. I seek body workers, certain types of therapists/coaches, healers, spiritual guides and the counsel of wise friends. I’m not sure what a caterpillar feels like when it knows it’s time to molt/transform, but I imagine it’s similar to what I feel in an “upleveling.” The caterpillar stores energy, builds the cocoon within which the transformation […]

Divorce and the Empty Nest

Divorce is hard, yes?

Ask anyone who has been through it. It’s harder for some than others. I have observed divorce being most difficult for people in two specific life circumstances. One is the empty nest.

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The Empty Nest

The feelings of abandonment and utter uselessness are exasperated when divorce and empty nest happen at the same time. It can be especially difficult if you were a stay-at-home parent who dedicated your life to rearing the children—one day your life was filled with purpose, and then it wasn’t. I’ve heard this referred […]

By | September 9th, 2014|Categories: After Divorce, Alone Again, Fear, Kids and Divorce, Loss, Parenting, Purpose, Second Time Around|3 Comments

Relationship Skills I Wish I’d Had

Relationship Skills I Wish I'd Had

Relationship Skills I Wish I’d Had

We typically learn a lot about ourselves, and others, when we divorce. Things that went right, things that went wrong. Things we would do differently next time.

From time to time, clients will write me about something fabulous they’ve learned. I write those in a section on my blog called….

One Thing I Want You To Know About Divorce…

By guest author, Mike Bare

The reason most people don’t race motorcycles is because the downside outweighs the best possible experience. The chance of death is just […]

Moving is Inevitable

ANNOUNCEMENTS: News from Beyond Divorce. Starting mid-January Step Two of the Beyond Divorce program. Check it out. Link to your right. Jeannine is on the radio this Friday at 11:30 a.m. Check out that link at the right, too. Date Consciously coaching group STARTING IN JANUARY. There's a link for that over there, also. >>> NEWSLETTER: I think personal growth is a lot like moving from one box, which could be called a psychic home, to another. Much like the hermit crab who is in continual pursuit of a larger shell as it grows, our current psychic home becomes too constrictive for us and we are forced to move into a larger one. In-between homes, as in between shells, is a vulnerable time. The new larger space seems endless. It has no edges, walls, or ceiling. "Ahhh. I've arrived." I've got breathing room, growing room, room to play, think, create. I've finally made it through all the boxes to, at last, open space. But darn it if after a while it doesn't start closing in again. I've grown larger yet again and am again outgrowing my psychic home.

The Need to be Heard

If we're happy, we want the other person to share in the happiness with us. If we don't get the response we want we'll either move on to the next person to get that response we are seeking, or give up entirely, stuffing away our need for connection... When our sharing is met equally on an emotional level we begin to relax like a baby who has been fed and burped.

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Parenting, Grandparenting and Purpose

 

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When it is time to write these newsletters there is usually at least one thing happening in my life that I believe would also be pertinent to you that I’d like to write about. My choice is not as clear this month. I could write something about our wedding: the 150 or so folks who braved the downpour to be part of our day. Nah. Not so pertinent to you. I could write about the 10-day cleansing juice fast I’m just completing. It’s been interesting, but why would that matter to you? […]