Giving Things Away


Giving Things Away

I need your help. Please read on. First my dilemma.

What’s up with “stuff?” I’ve had it up to my eyeballs with stuff lately. All last weekend I processed my late father’s belongings so my 85-year old mother doesn’t have to (and there was A LOT). Then I came home on Monday and started packing my own belongings to move (yes, unbelievably) again. It seems giving things away has become my new hobby. But, for me anyway, it isn’t as easy as it could, or perhaps should, be.

The most interesting thing […]

The Secret to Finding Yourself

The Secret to Finding Yourself

I’ve known for nearly two decades that I was in turmoil. I’d been in it so long I’d come to think that turmoil is just the way life is. What I didn’t realize is how lost in the weeds I’d been until I recently found myself in a peaceful meadow. Like the noisy refrigerator in the corner of the room, I didn’t really notice the clamoring I have been living with until it turned off. Are you interested in finding yourself, too?

After so long, I’d gotten used […]

Listen to Your Heart

Is It Time to Listen To Your Heart?


Have you noticed how quickly life moves these days? Is it just because I’m older, or maybe busier? I’ve heard that life is like a roll of toilet paper (going faster at the end) but I’m a little shocked that it goes this fast. Time to hang on tight cuz things are moving.

In a lot of ways speedy movement is good news. Just like they say about Colorado weather. If you don’t like it this 5 minutes, wait a few and it will be entirely […]

Have You Lost Love?

Blue fractal heart

Have You Lost Love?

That’s kind of a silly question isn’t it? If we are older than about one day, we have lost love of some kind. Or at least it feels that way.

If you feel like you’ve lost love, and want it back, this article is for you.

Although I would have pushed back on anyone who tried to tell me this in the past, I have come to know that we cannot lose love. Why?

Love lives in us, not outside us.

Life events, upbringing, along with evidence we’ve gathered to the […]

Failure of a Collaborative Divorce Case

I just witnessed the failure of a collaborative divorce case for the first time. It is disheartening. They will now be going to court with their own lawyer.

Why Journal?

Your Journal is Your Friend

Power of Journal WRiting 11-23-15

I encourage people all the time to call friends to talk with them. It’s so important to have a place to spill your guts when you’re trying to figure something out or you need some relief from the emotions and chaos. My father died last week and I found myself waking in the night thinking about him. I needed to process and the world was asleep. My journal served me well. Writing from 4am to 6am got all that stuff out […]

By | November 23rd, 2015|Categories: Communication, Emotions, Finding Peace, Manage Your Thoughts|Tags: , |Comments Off on Why Journal?

Waiting or Procrastinating?

Are Waiting and Procrastinating the Same?


I love it that so many of you respond to my writings. It’s fun to hear your perspectives. Do keep it up!

In response to my What’s Wrong With Waiting article Brenda wrote, “waiting to me sounds like ‘delaying.'” I understand her point. There is a difference between waiting and procrastinating. So what is it?

My intention in the WWWW article was to show the importance of slowing down and being mindful in our daily lives, to point us toward becoming one with the natural flow of life […]

By | August 22nd, 2015|Categories: Communication|0 Comments

Stonewalling – 5 Tips for Breaking Through

Relationship Destroying Behaviors: Stonewalling


There are four behaviors so deadly to a relationship, whether romantic, family and friends, or business, that they have been called ‘The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse’ by relationship expert, John Gottman, Ph.D.. He names them:

  • Criticism
  • Contempt
  • Defensiveness
  • Stonewalling

This is the fourth in a series of articles devoted to understanding the impact of each of these behaviors. You will find the first three articles on Criticism, Contempt, and

4 Tips for Managing Contempt

Relationship Destroying Behaviors: Contempt


There are four behaviors so deadly to a relationship, be it a romantic, familial, or business, that they have been called ‘The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse’ by relationship expert, John Gottman, Ph.D.

This article is the second in a series of four articles devoted to understanding the impact of each of these behaviors along with tips for reducing the impact of the behaviors, which are:

  1. Criticism
  2. Contempt
  3. Defensiveness
  4. Stonewalling

This time we look at Contempt:

Humans are powerful. The union of […]

The Collaborative Way to Divorce

The Collaborative Team

Coaching Collaborative Divorce

Like most things, when it comes to divorce, there are better and worse ways to go about it. I like to tell people that the best way to have a good life after divorce is to divorce well. Most people need help doing this.

If you’d been able to communicate well during your marriage you likely wouldn’t be divorcing now. Making difficult life-changing decisions while feeling broken and confused is a recipe for disaster. So what do you do? I believe it takes a team […]

By | January 7th, 2015|Categories: Collaborative Divorce, Communication, Divorce Help, During Divorce, Parenting|0 Comments