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The Secret to Finding Yourself

The Secret to Finding Yourself

I’ve known for nearly two decades that I was in turmoil. I’d been in it so long I’d come to think that turmoil is just the way life is. What I didn’t realize is how lost in the weeds I’d been until I recently found myself in a peaceful meadow. Like the noisy refrigerator in the corner of the room, I didn’t really notice the clamoring I have been living with until it turned off. Are you interested in finding yourself, too?

After so long, I’d gotten used […]

Listen to Your Heart

Is It Time to Listen To Your Heart?

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Have you noticed how quickly life moves these days? Is it just because I’m older, or maybe busier? I’ve heard that life is like a roll of toilet paper (going faster at the end) but I’m a little shocked that it goes this fast. Time to hang on tight cuz things are moving.

In a lot of ways speedy movement is good news. Just like they say about Colorado weather. If you don’t like it this 5 minutes, wait a few and it will be entirely […]

Have You Lost Love?

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Have You Lost Love?

That’s kind of a silly question isn’t it? If we are older than about one day, we have lost love of some kind. Or at least it feels that way.

If you feel like you’ve lost love, and want it back, this article is for you.

Although I would have pushed back on anyone who tried to tell me this in the past, I have come to know that we cannot lose love. Why?

Love lives in us, not outside us.

Life events, upbringing, along with evidence we’ve gathered to the […]

Failure of a Collaborative Divorce Case

I just witnessed the failure of a collaborative divorce case for the first time. It is disheartening. They will now be going to court with their own lawyer.

Conquering the Inner Critic

Are You Tired of Your Inner Critic?

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Are you aware of your inner critic? You know … that voice in your head that tells you you can’t do anything right. Most of us have an insidious inner critic that sounds like someone from our past: Ma, Pa, teacher, pastor, coach, older sibling. Who does yours sound like? Mine is usually my Dad. For the longest time I didn’t even notice those cutting remarks as a separate voice. It beat me up for years before I recognized it WASN’T ME…until that night camping by […]

6 Components of Your Emotional Divorce Support System

Mapping Your Divorce Support Resources

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Ending a relationship without a solid emotional divorce support net in place is quite daunting. You will be required to make some of the most important decisions of your life—decisions that impact your future, your family and your finances. When someone close to us dies there are also many decisions to be made, but friends and family tend to gather around to help. So often in divorce we’re left to ourselves even though we need just as much support, maybe more.

If you don’t yet […]

What To Do When Your Ex is Non-Compliant With the Divorce Settlement

When Your Ex is Non-Compliant

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It wasn’t easy, but you made it.  Maybe you had an attorney to help you, maybe you didn’t.  Some how, some way, the day arrived where…you finally got divorced.

What a day that was…bitter sweet perhaps? Usually is.

Maybe divorce was what you wanted, or needed.  Maybe you didn’t want a divorce, but there you were nonetheless.  It doesn’t matter now.  It’s done.  Hopefully, you are moving on to bigger and better times and have no or minimal interaction with your ex.

When you got divorced, […]

By | June 16th, 2015|Categories: Divorce, Divorce Help, Surviving Divorce, Uncategorized|0 Comments

6 Proven Strategies for Self Care During Divorce

Radical Self Care During Divorce

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How are you feeling after the new year? Is it starting out the way you hoped? If you’re going through a divorce, and January is a prime time for it, you may need some self-care during your divorce. They’re good tips at any time, but especially necessary now.

I just saw a little magazine clip that says “Be sweet to yourself.” One of the things most of us are really bad at, whether we’re divorcing or not, is taking care […]

The Collaborative Way to Divorce

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Coaching Collaborative Divorce

Like most things, when it comes to divorce, there are better and worse ways to go about it. I like to tell people that the best way to have a good life after divorce is to divorce well. Most people need help doing this.

If you’d been able to communicate well during your marriage you likely wouldn’t be divorcing now. Making difficult life-changing decisions while feeling broken and confused is a recipe for disaster. So what do you do? I believe it takes a team […]

By | January 7th, 2015|Categories: Collaborative Divorce, Communication, Divorce Help, During Divorce, Parenting|0 Comments

7 Ways the Holidays Break Struggling Relationships

The Holidays and Struggling Relationships

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I recently heard that two weeks before Christmas is when most relationships break up. At the same time I learned that the 2-week-before Christmas mark also has the highest suicide rate and is the busiest time of year for most therapists. Yes, there is a whole lot going on during the holiday season, but why are they so hard on struggling relationships?

The Holidays Break Struggling Relationships In A Number of Ways

  1. In our imaginations we hold an image of our ideal holiday. […]