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Life is FOR you!

Life is FOR you!

If you’ve been with me for any length of time you know the nature of chaos I have lived with in all of the upheavals in my life. In case you haven’t been around, here’s the short list: I’ve moved 42 times, been in 3 car accidents (two of them car-totaling, and 1 with head injuries), navigated empty nest, lost two lifeline friends, I’ve had two estranged children (reconciled now), lost my father, lost my health (recovered now), divorced twice, didn’t receive my half of […]

By | October 4th, 2016|Categories: Emotions, Fear, Finding Peace, Grief, Live Better, Looking Forward, Your Future|Comments Off on Life is FOR you!

The Metaphor of Moving

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I am in the middle of moving again. This is move number 42 as far as I can recall. This is my fifth residence in two years, and my 14th move in the last decade. That’s a lot of moving around.

This one is a little bit different. For starters, when I have moved in the past I didn’t much like it but I just did it. I got it done so I could get back to my life. This time I am virtually intolerant of it. I’m still doing it, because I […]

By | September 25th, 2016|Categories: Emotions, Fear, Looking Forward, Moving On, Your Future|Comments Off on The Metaphor of Moving

Giving Things Away

 

Giving Things Away

I need your help. Please read on. First my dilemma.

What’s up with “stuff?” I’ve had it up to my eyeballs with stuff lately. All last weekend I processed my late father’s belongings so my 85-year old mother doesn’t have to (and there was A LOT). Then I came home on Monday and started packing my own belongings to move (yes, unbelievably) again. It seems giving things away has become my new hobby. But, for me anyway, it isn’t as easy as it could, or perhaps should, be.

The most interesting thing […]

The Secret to Finding Yourself

The Secret to Finding Yourself

I’ve known for nearly two decades that I was in turmoil. I’d been in it so long I’d come to think that turmoil is just the way life is. What I didn’t realize is how lost in the weeds I’d been until I recently found myself in a peaceful meadow. Like the noisy refrigerator in the corner of the room, I didn’t really notice the clamoring I have been living with until it turned off. Are you interested in finding yourself, too?

After so long, I’d gotten used […]

Listen to Your Heart

Is It Time to Listen To Your Heart?

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Have you noticed how quickly life moves these days? Is it just because I’m older, or maybe busier? I’ve heard that life is like a roll of toilet paper (going faster at the end) but I’m a little shocked that it goes this fast. Time to hang on tight cuz things are moving.

In a lot of ways speedy movement is good news. Just like they say about Colorado weather. If you don’t like it this 5 minutes, wait a few and it will be entirely […]

Have You Lost Love?

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Have You Lost Love?

That’s kind of a silly question isn’t it? If we are older than about one day, we have lost love of some kind. Or at least it feels that way.

If you feel like you’ve lost love, and want it back, this article is for you.

Although I would have pushed back on anyone who tried to tell me this in the past, I have come to know that we cannot lose love. Why?

Love lives in us, not outside us.

Life events, upbringing, along with evidence we’ve gathered to the […]

Failure of a Collaborative Divorce Case

I just witnessed the failure of a collaborative divorce case for the first time. It is disheartening. They will now be going to court with their own lawyer.

Tears – What Do Yours Look Like?

Tears - What Do Yours Look Like I was recently introduced to the work of Rose Lynn Fisher who studies, and photographs, tears. I found it fascinating

By | December 3rd, 2015|Categories: Emotions, Fear, Grief|0 Comments

Feeling Abandoned

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Feeling Abandoned

 

In a previous post I mentioned two types of folks who have the most difficulty getting through divorce.

The first type is mothers (and sometimes fathers) facing the empty nest. The second, which is the subject of this article, is folks who did not have the parental guidance and other resources they needed as children to become happy, secure adults and go through a divorce from a child-like, helpless position. Perhaps their caregiver experienced a major life event that took them out of the […]

By | October 7th, 2014|Categories: Divorce, Divorce Help, Divorce Recovery, Fear, Grief, Loss, Surviving Divorce|2 Comments

Divorce and the Empty Nest

Divorce is hard, yes?

Ask anyone who has been through it. It’s harder for some than others. I have observed divorce being most difficult for people in two specific life circumstances. One is the empty nest.

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The Empty Nest

The feelings of abandonment and utter uselessness are exasperated when divorce and empty nest happen at the same time. It can be especially difficult if you were a stay-at-home parent who dedicated your life to rearing the children—one day your life was filled with purpose, and then it wasn’t. I’ve heard this referred […]

By | September 9th, 2014|Categories: After Divorce, Alone Again, Fear, Kids and Divorce, Loss, Parenting, Purpose, Second Time Around|3 Comments