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Giving Things Away

 

Giving Things Away

I need your help. Please read on. First my dilemma.

What’s up with “stuff?” I’ve had it up to my eyeballs with stuff lately. All last weekend I processed my late father’s belongings so my 85-year old mother doesn’t have to (and there was A LOT). Then I came home on Monday and started packing my own belongings to move (yes, unbelievably) again. It seems giving things away has become my new hobby. But, for me anyway, it isn’t as easy as it could, or perhaps should, be.

The most interesting thing […]

The Gift of Struggle

Is Struggle a Distraction or a Necessity?

The Gift of Struggle

 

Struggle makes us strong. I’ve had dreams and goals for a lot of my life. I imagine that’s true of you, too. One of the things I have consistently asked of Spirit is to help me become the person who can create my dreams, which got me to thinking about what is needed to create a life I wanted to live—and it wasn’t what I initially thought.

Things Are Not the Dream

As human beings we need things. Things make us feel happy and safe, […]

Transitions – Insights Do Come

Transitions – Insights Do Come

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I’ve experienced many transitions. So have you, even if you didn’t recognize it at the time. Having just come through another one, I’m gaining all kinds of new insights. The loss part kind of sucks. The in-between stage was dismantling with all the fears that brings. The new beginning part is starting to make sense of it all.

I remember the first major transition I went through, which culminated in ending my marriage of 30 years. I didn’t have any idea what was happening to me then. At the time I’d been […]

A Season of Discontent

A Season of Discontent

 Season of Discontent

Discontent is hard to live with. Discontent with life. Discontent with partner. Discontent with work. If you are one who is in such a season, it seems all the world is tugging at you to be a certain way, to keep up the facade of normalcy, to ignore the fire roaring inside you that would cause you to scream and run away to a simpler life, to tend the fire burning inside. You need down time to ponder the changes going on inside you. You simply […]

What’s Wrong With Waiting?

What’s Wrong With Waiting?

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There’s nothing like a car crash with a head injury to force a change in habits. I’ve had to slow down—a lot.  I didn’t realize the speed at which I lived life until I slowed it down a few notches.  It’s been different, but certainly not a bad thing.

My motto has become WWWW. Like WWJD (What Would Jesus Do?). Or www (world-wide-web) My motto is What’s Wrong With Waiting? I think I’ll start a movement. What’s Wrong With Waiting?  = WWWW

In the past I […]

The Upside of Emotional Crashes

The Upside of Emotional Crashes

The Upside of Emotional Crashes

I’ve lived a helluva life. In a little over a decade I’ve moved at least a dozen times, been in two car-totaling crashes, and been through two divorces. Those are the things I can quantify. The list doesn’t include financial crashes, computer crashes and emotional crashes. I’ve wondered what I’m missing that I require these hard lessons over and over. Is it just a string of bad luck? Did I sign up for this in some way? Is this just the way […]

Three Tools for Change

Three Tools for Change

Tools For Change

When it is time to “uplevel” I recognize that I need a lot of support—a team if you will. My team is one of my tools for change. I seek body workers, certain types of therapists/coaches, healers, spiritual guides and the counsel of wise friends. I’m not sure what a caterpillar feels like when it knows it’s time to molt/transform, but I imagine it’s similar to what I feel in an “upleveling.” The caterpillar stores energy, builds the cocoon within which the transformation […]

Upleveling

Upleveling

The Next Level

For years, up until just a few months ago actually, I was convinced that divorce was a tragedy that I had to both survive and recover from to get on with my “normal” life. Now I realize divorce is an opportunity to, what I call, “uplevel.” I see divorce more like a rung on a ladder on the way to who and what I am becoming.

I’ve done a ton of both personal and professional work around recovering from divorce, I’ve shared my journey, my fears, my tears, my […]

Easter as Metaphor for Your New Life

Easter as Metaphor

Newness of Life

Spring in the natural world, which is often heralded by the Easter and Passover holidays, is an awakening. Plants long dormant wake from their slumber as they are touched by the sun’s gentle, warming rays. They yawn, stretch, shake off the weight of winter and immediately get about flashing their beauty and producing fruit.

We, too, have our seasons—periods of dormancy and growth. Our personal seasons may or may not coincide with the seasons of nature, but however they come they are a great metaphor for understanding […]

Gratitude—The Gift that Keeps on Giving

Thanksgiving. A day dedicated to gratitude—to focusing on the good in life. How cool is that? Regardless of how it started, or if we believe the pilgrim story, we in the U.S. have a day set aside to count our blessings, to think about and revel in the opportunities available to us. Despite any hardships, we have a lot to be thankful for. Gratitude feels good. It is a change of focus that helps us zero in on the positive and minimize the negative. Since what we focus on grows we realize it gives a double gift. Yes, gratitude is an emotion, but it is also a tool. We can use it to steer our lives in a more positive direction. So many of our emotions steer us without our willingness, it’s nice to have one that we can commandeer for our own good.