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Choose Thoughts Wisely

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Choose Thoughts Wisely

I recently took my grandkids to the playground, unfortunately it was full of goatheads, those really nasty thorns that flatten your bike tires, and pierce your shoes, your hands or knees or anything else unfortunate enough to come in contact with them.

We could have picked them out one by one, or tried to avoid them, but that takes a lot of time and energy—and we probably wouldn’t get all of them anyway.  The better solution? Just go play somewhere else. What a great metaphor for life, especially our thought life. […]

By | May 5th, 2016|Categories: Better Relationships, Finding Peace, Learning from the Journey, Manage Your Thoughts, Parenting, Ponderings|Comments Off on Choose Thoughts Wisely

5 Ways to Make Your Mornings Magical

5 Ways to Make Your Mornings Magical

 

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We all have those days where we have to dash off to something or other but is that the majority of the time for you? Or just once in a while? I think mornings are the most precious part of a day and I’ve got some ideas to make your mornings magical. When we’re out and about early enough we can enjoy the world waking up slowly, like the rising sun. At the start of a day there are only a few things demanding attention […]

The Upside of Emotional Crashes

The Upside of Emotional Crashes

The Upside of Emotional Crashes

I’ve lived a helluva life. In a little over a decade I’ve moved at least a dozen times, been in two car-totaling crashes, and been through two divorces. Those are the things I can quantify. The list doesn’t include financial crashes, computer crashes and emotional crashes. I’ve wondered what I’m missing that I require these hard lessons over and over. Is it just a string of bad luck? Did I sign up for this in some way? Is this just the way […]

Three Tools for Change

Three Tools for Change

Tools For Change

When it is time to “uplevel” I recognize that I need a lot of support—a team if you will. My team is one of my tools for change. I seek body workers, certain types of therapists/coaches, healers, spiritual guides and the counsel of wise friends. I’m not sure what a caterpillar feels like when it knows it’s time to molt/transform, but I imagine it’s similar to what I feel in an “upleveling.” The caterpillar stores energy, builds the cocoon within which the transformation […]

Upleveling

Upleveling

The Next Level

For years, up until just a few months ago actually, I was convinced that divorce was a tragedy that I had to both survive and recover from to get on with my “normal” life. Now I realize divorce is an opportunity to, what I call, “uplevel.” I see divorce more like a rung on a ladder on the way to who and what I am becoming.

I’ve done a ton of both personal and professional work around recovering from divorce, I’ve shared my journey, my fears, my tears, my […]

Finding Peace and Happiness Again

Finding Peace and Happiness Again

Peace and happiness

Are you still off-kilter since your divorce and feeling anything but peace and happiness? Don’t give up. There’s little that is worse than being in misery and having no hope of it ever changing! Just keeping peace and happiness in your sites will do a lot to get you through.

I was in the misery for a long time, too. I don’t know if it was really a long time, I guess that’s relative, but it felt like forever. The space between […]

The Wake Up Call

My Wake Up Call?

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I’ve been meaning to write you…. but my brain isn’t working right. I was in a car accident last week coming home from teaching divorce recovery class (hmmm). So the gash in my head and this concussion I have need some tending to. I’ll be ok. I hear it just takes time. Gotta rest my brain in the same way I would rest a sprained ankle. I can’t do even a quarter of the things I’m used to doing on a daily basis.

Is […]

5 Keys for Letting Go

5 Keys for Letting Go

Letting go

Letting go of the memories of your divorce is imperative if you want to create a happier life going forward and yet, we so often feel stuck, tied to a useless past. Even if we want to let go then there are strong ties that keep us bound—to the past, to the Ex, to the family and life that once was. Our memories seem to tie us energetically to a past that no longer exists. What’s up with that? Why is it so hard to snip those […]

Easter as Metaphor for Your New Life

Easter as Metaphor

Newness of Life

Spring in the natural world, which is often heralded by the Easter and Passover holidays, is an awakening. Plants long dormant wake from their slumber as they are touched by the sun’s gentle, warming rays. They yawn, stretch, shake off the weight of winter and immediately get about flashing their beauty and producing fruit.

We, too, have our seasons—periods of dormancy and growth. Our personal seasons may or may not coincide with the seasons of nature, but however they come they are a great metaphor for understanding […]

Making Things Better for Mork

Inspired by Robin Williams

I was running errands recently in the hustle and bustle of urban life. It all seemed so helter skelter, unorganized, chaotic. A thought came to me: I wonder what we can do to make life more hospitable. Big word. Unusual word. Don’t know that I’ve used it much at all, and yet, there it was.  How do we make things better?

Mork and Mindy House

I went into the bank. The teller shared her story of having been bitten […]

By | August 19th, 2014|Categories: Learning from the Journey, Loss, Ponderings|0 Comments