A New Approach to Relationship Success
Would you like to understand:
- The 4 behaviors that end relationships and how they may have played out in your relationship?
- The antidote to those relationship ending behaviors?
- The #1 dynamic that ends relationships
- The childhood dynamics that may be affecting your relationship today?
- The useful role that boundaries can play in your marriage?
- How to utilize your introvert/extrovert tendencies?
- How to use your differences as strengths?
- The roles you’ve each taken on in daily living, and how they may be contributing to unease?
- The positive purpose conflict has in your relationship?
- The three levels of relating and how they may be causing you needless conflict?
- What your woman needs in relationship? What your man needs in relationship?
- How the two of you can be on the same team to resolve issues?
I have worked in the divorce field for a long time. I’ve worked with hundreds of ending relationships. Each marriage is unique because each coupling is unique, but there are common threads that run through every relationship ending. I know what ends relationships. I can steer you around those things…if that is what you want.
As a Relationship Strategist with extensive training in systems coaching, I bring you the perfect tools to explore your relationship in a very real way. No games. No blame. No dissecting. Just exploring the dynamics, supporting the growth and changes that are required, as well as meeting each of your needs to be heard. Your relationship has its own wisdom. Let’s listen in.
Are You Ready to Do Things A Little Different?
Men (and some women, too) can have a hard time with the touchy-feely world of therapy. It’s not generally their realm and they don’t know how to participate in a way that feels comfortable. Coaching is forward-moving, solution-oriented, pro-active and goal-centric, which makes it an ideal solution for those who don’t want to talk about problems as much as DO something about them.
Change takes time. I am highly motivated to reduce my fees for those who want to engage in the process. It takes time to work through the kinks and I provide financial incentive to help you make that happen. You didn’t get where you are in a few weeks, and you won’t get out of it in a few weeks either, but you can absolutely get out of it and create a brand new marriage as brand new partners if that is what you want. We can talk more about your options for help after your Assessment.
“Jeannine started coaching us at a very critical time in our marriage. We had been spiraling down a negative path for a long time and needed someone else to look at what we were doing and give us tools to change. Jeannine is a real positive coach, having us look at our differences as a good thing, building a whole new marriage on what we have instead of [make believe] dreams, giving us ‘exercises’ to put in practice and experience what we learned. When we felt a week of back sliding, she would say, ‘but I see your baby steps and see you moving forward.’ We especially appreciate Jeannine’s insight and God given discernment of her coaching. We look forward to our weekly meeting with her.” ~ Jim and Peggy
If Your partner won’t come
If your partner isn’t interested in participating with you in the exploration, I can work with you individually on most of the above points to help you gain personal understanding. A marriage is a system. A system is like a mobile, finely balanced… until it isn’t. If you change you will change the dynamics in your relationship. Period. Your partner will have to respond to those changes in some way. S/he may become willing to explore some options at that point. S/he may not. Either way, you’ve got more information than you had before.
“As usual you worked your magic and helped us to get back on course. You are so wonderful and I/we so appreciate your focus and “presence” when you are working with us. Your insights, observations and thoughts have been invaluable. Thank you. I honestly feel so blessed to have you in my/our life.” ~ K.
Your next step:
You might want to start with a Relationship Assessment. This is a one-time 90-minute session with me to identify both your strengths and weaknesses in your relationship. Once we know those things we can form a plan for further work, if that is what you decide to do. Please note that I will never tell you it’s time to end your marriage. I won’t tell you that you should stay together, either. This type of assessment allows you the benefit of doing exploratory work without any expected outcome. Every relationship bumps up against stuff. It’s how we grow. You are not bad, wrong, or a failure because there is conflict in your relationship. Come with a curious heart and let’s see what’s present.
If you want to talk to me first, I completely understand. Let’s have a brief chat to decide if this is the best step for you right now.