Divorce Recovery and Empowerment Program
Nothing helps you feel whole again as fast as being with others who are going through a similar experience.
You will discover:
- You are not alone.
- Others hurt in the same ways you do.
- The proven steps to get you from where you are, to where you want to go.
- Other perspectives. You will likely meet someone just like your Ex in class. This gives you a unique perspective otherwise lost.
- How divorce can transform you for good.
- There is a good life waiting for you after your divorce.
Hear what Jerry had to say of his experience.
Based on Relationship Research
It works because it is:
- Curriculum-based. You will learn how to get through each important phase of the emotional recovery process. This structured approach gives your mind new ideas to think about and grow from; gives your heart the opportunity to express, and also prevents interactions from digressing to mere Ex-bashing.
- Based on research and time tested methods. We have thirty years of relationship research behind us now to understand what works and what goes wrong when things fall apart. For instance, did you know that, according to relationship researcher John Gottman, 69% of relationship conflict is unresolvable? That explains some things doesn’t it?
- A group. Groups are nearly miraculous, especially in today’s modern, disconnected social structure. Groups provide a place to talk. This brings out our inner turmoil so you can examine it and receive much-needed support. When you share your experiences with others and they share with you, you know you’re not alone, and you learn a great deal from the way others handle their difficulties.
- An opportunity to ensure your own survival by helping others. To quote Laurence Gonzales, author of Who Lives, Who Dies, and Why “helping someone else is the best way to ensure your own survival. It takes you out of yourself and helps you rise above your fears.”
See below for program topics.
“It is easy to feel as if you are completely alone when going through divorce. Jeannine’s graduates have a close network of new friends who are all in the same boat and provide great insight and support. This, and the learning in classes, makes this class a “must attend” for anyone struggling with the end of a romantic/love relationship.” -Jerry
Contrary to popular belief, time does not heal all wounds.
It is what you do with your time that makes the difference. Accelerate your healing by years when you participate in the Beyond Divorce Recovery program:
- Find comfort from the pain of separation
- Let go of guilt, worry and fear
- Heal from rejection
- Learn boundaries to protect your heart and your loves
- Feel better than ever about yourself
Just 10 weeks in our curriculum-based program will speed your recovery by 2 or more years.
The program is specifically designed to get you through the most intense phases of a relationship ending, to learn from the experience and move into view of your new life which is based on new values and new loves.
Session One – An overview of the recovery and empowerment process
You may come into this session feeling lonely, hurt, afraid, angry or a combination of all of them. These are normal feelings of divorce, and you will soon learn that you are not alone, and that you don’t have to stay in the emotional turmoil. Attend the first half of this night for free to meet the facilitator, graduates of the program, and others who may be in the class along with you. Complete an assessment to get a bird’s eye view of the impact divorce is having on your life.
Session Two – Understanding Transition
You’re not crazy. You’re in transition. Transitions have a predictable beginning, middle, and end. Knowing the phase you’re in, and what to expect in that phase, helps you identify where you are in your transition process. The middle stage is marked by emotional upheaval, chaos and confusion. It is a normal and, believe it or not, productive part of your divorce process.
- Learn the power of transition.
- Get relief from fear, worry, anxiety, loneliness and guilt.
- Complete a Relationship History Assessment to identify major ups and downs in your marriage and how they have led you to where you are today.
- Understand the different experiences for those who want the divorce, and those who don’t, and those who feel compelled to leave because a partner won’t change. Get relief from fear, worry, anxiety, loneliness and guilt.
Session Three – Let go of Grief, Worry and Fear
Saying goodbye is difficult. Grief, though painful, is the single most effective tool you have to move forward. There are different grief experiences for those who want the divorce, those who don’t, and those who feel compelled to leave because a partner won’t change. You will participate in a powerful exercise that will untie the knots so you can move on. This is an important night for healing and change.
Session Four – You Get to Be Mad: Anger
Do you sometimes feel like slashing tires or breaking things? The anger experienced while divorcing is extreme. It is often justified, but it probably won’t serve you to express it the way you feel it. Learn the differences between mature and immature anger, and some positive, non-destructive, and pro-active ways to release that anger energy.
Session Five – Set Yourself Free: Forgiveness and Boundaries
Forgiveness is for you. It will set you free when you can let it. Learn what it is, how to access it even when you don’t feel like it, and how to gain the freedom that forgiving brings.
Were you hurt in your marriage because you didn’t know how to stop harmful things from happening to you? Or that you should stop them? You may have tolerated a lot of bad behavior trying to keep your marriage together. Learn the basics of boundaries: why, how, and when to set those important limits to protect yourself and those you care about. For many attendees this is brand new and very useful knowledge.
Session Six – Feel Good Again: Self-Worth
Nothing damages self-worth like having the person you loved and counted on withdraw their love, or worse, become your enemy. The good news is that your self-worth isn’t about them. You get to feel good about yourself no matter what your former partner, or anyone else, thinks, says, or does. There’s still a lot of love out there, you will experience a good bit of it this night.
Session Seven – Find Peace: Manage Your Thinking
Is your Inner Critic beating you up? Does it seem like your Ex is doing so much better than you? A lot of the hurt we experience we do to ourselves by the way we think—about ourselves and the way life works. Learn how to manage your thinking to feel better and get better results. Find the peace that lies beneath your circumstances.
It was surprising how quickly I began to look forward to the class. Building community with people who are in a similar place: the ability to meet people who truly understand where you are—as experts in pain. I found a lot of safety in opening up to these people. ~ Greg H.
Session Eight – Price of Immaturity: What Went Wrong?
Were you a perfectionist? Caretaker? Critical? Absent? Were you married to one of those? Most of us don’t realize how immature we are in our relationships until they break down. The things we learned in childhood were intended to provide us with important relational skills and equip us for adult relationships. If we didn’t get those skills, we brought our childish ways to our adult relationships. Learn the impact to your relationship, and how to participate in a healthier way in the future.
Session Nine – Future Relating: Is Dating In Your Future?
Post-divorce relating is complicated. The first relationship to heal is the one with yourself. Learn what it means to have a healthy aloneness. Understand the differences between a rebound and a transitional relationship. Gain insight into the new rules of dating. See if your concerns about being sexual again make sense. This is a powerful and tasteful discussion to address these important, and maybe a little scary, topics.
Session Ten – Letting Go and Celebration
You’ve come a long way, learned a lot, challenged yourself, and probably see things quite differently than ten short weeks ago. This is a time of celebration. Tonight we will talk about the importance of letting go of what no longer works whether that is behaviors and attitudes, people, or an outdated image of yourself. You will identify that important next step, and complete an assessment to revisit the state of things now.
After attending, participants report that they are better able to:
- Handle stress
- Meet challenges with more confidence
- Accept people and situations as they are
- Understand themselves better
- Experience feelings of joy, inner peace, and happiness.
Cost: 10-weekly sessions. Payment plans are available.
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